I found out some awful terrible horrible news today. My sister was expecting her first child and went to the doctor today only to learn that there was no heartbeat. When her husband called and told me, honestly, at first I thought, this is a really bad joke. But I could hear my sister sobbing in the background and I knew it wasn't a joke. My heart broke for her. There are no words to make it better. Not enough I'm sorrys in the world to change it. She wasn't far along enough to even know if it was a boy or a girl, but it was still a baby. And now, a heartbreak. I know that there are those out there that would say, "Oh, it's terrible and all, but she can have another baby." I don't agree with that. She may be able to have another baby, but she can't have "this" baby. And this is the baby she already loved, already had dreams for, already knew growing in her body. I've never experienced this kind of loss, but being a mother of 3, I know that it's the worst thing in the world to even think of losing a child. And even if it wasn't born yet, it was still her child.
I dreamed several months ago that I had twins for her. It was a very strange dream involving her bringing her 2 dogs to the hospital to see the babies and her and her husband naming them Clark and Kent (must have been from my obsession with Superman). But after today, well, I knew that I may have dreamed that for a reason. I'm not clairvoyant, but sometimes things just stick in your head. And if there was to come a time when she were to find that she can't have children, I know that I'd offer to carry a baby for her. I wouldn't even have to think about it. It's a done deal. She's my sister. I have 3 children, so my life is complete. I would have no problem carrying a baby for her and gladly placing him or her in my sisters arms as soon as it was born. I can think of nothing that would make me happier. I hope that she doesn't have to take me up on my offer. I know the joy that comes from having that child grow inside you, and would never want her to miss that experience, but I hope that she knows that if the need ever arises, I'd do it in a heartbeat.
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